Sunday, March 23, 2014

The Differences Between Successful People and Unsuccessful People


A few weeks ago I received a postcard in the mail from the CEO of Petra Coach, the creator of Align Software and a fellow member of Entrepreneurs Organization. I've never met him, but Andy Bailey and his postcard that I hung up on my wall have already had a profound effect on me, reinforcing values I believe in and reminding me on a daily basis of the attitudes and habits that I know I need to embrace in order to become successful.
Below are the 16 differences between successful people and unsuccessful people that Andy Bailey and the postcard claim, followed by a picture of the postcard itself:
1. Embrace change vs. Fear change
Embracing change is one of the hardest things a person can do. With the world moving so fast and constantly changing, and technology accelerating faster than ever, we need to embrace what’s coming and adapt, rather than fear it, deny it or hide from it.
2. Want others to succeed vs. Secretly hope others fail
When you’re in an organization with a group of people, in order to be successful, you all have to be successful. We need to want to see our co-workers succeed and grow. If you wish for their demise, why even work with them at all?
3. Exude joy vs. Exude anger
In business and in life, it’s always better to be happy and exude that joy to others. It becomes contagious and encourages other to exude their joy as well. When people are happier they tend to be more focused and successful. If a person exudes anger, it puts everyone around them in a horrible, unmotivated mood and little success comes from it.
4. Accept responsibly for your failures vs. Blame others for your failures
Where there are ups, there are most always downs. Being a leader and successful businessperson means always having to accept responsibility for your failures. Blaming others solves nothing; it just puts other people down and absolutely no good comes from it.
5. Talk about ideas vs. Talk about people
What did we all learn in high school? Gossip gets you nowhere. Much of the time it’s false and most of the time it's negative. Instead of gossiping about people, successful people talk about ideas. Sharing ideas with others will only make them better.
6. Share data & info vs. Hoard data & info
As we all learned in kindergarten, sharing is caring. In social media, in business and in life, sharing is important to be successful. When you share you info and data with others, you can get others involved in what you are doing to achieve success. Hoarding data and info is selfish and short-sighted.
7. Give people all the credit for their victories vs. Take all the credit from others
Teamwork is a key to success. When working with others, don’t take credit from their ideas. Letting others have their own victories and moments to shine motivates them and in the long term, the better they perform, the better you'll look anyway.
8. Set goals and life plans vs. Do not set goals
You can't possibly be successful without knowing where you're going in life. A life vision board, 10 year plan, 3 year forecast, annual strategic plan, and daily goal lists are are useful tools of the mega-successful people in your life. Get your vision and goals down on paper!
9. Keep a journal vs. Say you keep a journal but don’t
Keeping a journal is a great way to jot down quick ideas or thoughts that come to mind that are not worth forgetting. Writing them down can lead to something even greater. You can even use mobile apps or your Notes function in your phone. But don’t fool yourself by saying you keep a journal and not following through.
10. Read every day vs. Watch TV every day
Reading every day educates you on new subjects. Whether you are reading a blog, your favorite magazine or a good book, you can learn and become more knowledgeable as you read. Watching television, on the other hand, may be good entertainment or an escape, but you'll rarely get anything out of TV to help you become more successful.
11. Operate from a transformational perspective vs. Operate from a transactional perspective
Transformational leaders go above and beyond to reach success on another level. They focus on team building, motivation and collaboration across organizations. They're always looking ahead to see how they can transform themselves and others, instead of looking to just make a sale or generate more revenue or get something out of the way.
12. Continuously learn vs. Fly by the seat of your pants
Continuously learning and improving is the only way to grow. You can be a step above your competition and become more flexible because you know more. If you just fly by the seat of your pants, you could be passing up opportunities that prevent you from learning (and growing!)
13. Compliment others vs. Criticize others
Complimenting someone is always a great way to show someone you care. A compliment gives a natural boost of energy to someone, and is an act of kindness that makes you feel better as well. Criticizing produces negativity and leads to nothing good.
14. Forgive others vs. Hold a grudge
Everybody makes mistakes; it’s human. The only way to get past the mistake is to forgive and move on. Dwelling on anger only makes things worse - for you.
15. Keep a “To-Be” list vs. Don’t know what you want to be
A “To-Be” list is a great way to strategize for the future. I want to be an elected official one day. I want to be a TED speaker. I want to be the CEO of a public company. I want to be a great father and husband. Unsuccessful people have no idea what they want to be. If you don’t know what you want to be, how can you achieve success? What do you want to be?
16. Have Gratitude vs Don't appreciate others and the world around you.
Moments of gratitude, each and every one, transform my life each day- and unquestionably have made me more successful and more happy. The people who you are grateful for are often the ones who have a huge part in your success. Be sure to thank everyone you come in contact with and walk with a spirit of gratitude and appreciation and even wonder, about the world around you. Gratitude is the ultimate key to being successful in business and in life.

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

这是孩子最爱听的40句话:如果成为爸妈的口头禅的话,您一定会培养出一个品质优秀的孩子!

1.我们该玩游戏了。
2.妈妈没想到的你想到了。
3.大胆去做吧,做错了没关系,重要的是你认真做了!
4.不舒服时说出来就会好点,我很能体谅你现在的心情,我会帮你分析的。
5.办法总是比困难多。
6.我喜欢你的笑的样子。
7.对自己要有信心哦!
8.你很聪明,想用最简单的方法解这道难题。
9.你说的有道理,往下说。
10.你已经很努力了,再坚持一会儿这个问题就解决了。
11.你想吃什么?我们一起做好吗?
12.孩子,加油吧,你一定行!
13.看咱俩谁先跑到家。
14.你又长高了。
15.孩子,你真懂事,帮妈妈做了不少家务。
16.你真够能干的!还要妈妈帮你吗?
17.想想今天你最高兴的事是什么?
18.对不起,是我误解了你。
19.今天你和朋友们在一起高兴吗?为什么?
20.这个事情你怎么看?有几种解决的办法?
21.这个问题我们都不懂,但我们可以一起查资料。
22.想哭就哭出来吧,哭完后你会比以前更坚强的。
23.身体哪里不舒服?
24.这个月超支了,咱们比比,看谁的节约办法多。
25.看到妈妈爸爸今天有做错的地方吗?应该怎么办?
26.我们需要学习的东西很多,别着急,一样一样来。
27.不想对我们说的话也可以对自己说,要正确对待哦。
28.你先仔细思考一会儿,不要急于回答我的问题。
29.妈妈需要休息一会儿,你要照顾好自己哦。
30.你觉得哪道题没把握?32.小兔需要你照顾它。
33.有你的提醒妈妈就不会忘记带钥匙了。
34.你一定知道靠别人不如靠自己。
35.再做一次,看看结果有什么不同?
36.大家都喜欢听你讲的故事。
37.不会没关系,你可以多请教、多查资料呀。
38.今天摔倒了没哭,好样的,以后要多注意点儿。
39.妈妈提不动这么多东西,谁来帮我?
40.你真有礼貌,我们都应该向你学习

Sunday, March 09, 2014

不愧是大师

这回答太牛了!不愧是大师

一、【你吃肉吗】
一个来访者问:法师,我想问一个不太恭敬的问题?
  师:请讲!
  来访:您在公众场合是素食,您一个人在房间会不会吃肉呢?
  (师并没有回答他的问题)反倒问他:您是开车来的吗?
  来访:是的。
  师说:开车要系安全带。请问您是为自己系还是为警察系?如果是为自己系,有没有警察都要系。
  来访:喔,我明白了!
(好多人就跟我说,没自律,没人督促就不能坚持成功者的习惯。 我想看完这个故事,你应该懂得该怎么做了)

二、【孩子怎么教?】
  众:请问法师,我的小孩不听话、不爱学习怎么办?
  师:您影印过文件吗?
  众:影印过。
  师:如果影印件上面有错字,您是改影印件还是改原稿?
  (场内立刻响起雷鸣掌声。后有人答道:改原稿。)
  师:应该原 稿和影印件同时改,才是最好。父母是原稿,家庭是影印机,孩子是影印件。孩子是父母的未来,父母更是孩子的未来。
(父母是孩子最好的老师,如果你自己不优秀,如何给孩子优秀的教育?如何要求孩子优秀?不如提升自己,同时提高孩子)

三、【五百元买汽车】
  一位佛友电话抱怨道:为什么我努力了还是得不到?念经行善了但命运却不变?
  师:我给你寄五百块钱来好不好?
  众:师父,你的钱我不敢要呢!
  师:我是要你帮我办一件事。
  众:师父,你说办什么,我绝对帮你办好!
  师 :帮我买一辆汽车。
  众: (惊呀地) 师父,五百块怎么能买到汽车呢?!
师:你知道五百块买不到汽车!可是世上有太多的人都在绞尽脑汁,想付出一点, 就得到很多。
  
四、【心灵篮球】
  一位研究生来拜访我,不理解地问:为什么好多人见到你都要磕头?这是不是有点迷信?我没有拜过任何人,我只拜我自己!
  师:你一定打过篮球,或者羽毛球,或者乒乓球吧?
  青年:是的,打过!
  师:打篮球干什么?不打篮球,篮球会难受吗?而且那么多人打一个球,是为了快点把篮打烂吗?
  青年:不是,是为了锻炼身体和娱乐。
  师说:不用篮球也可以像打篮球一样运动嘛!
  青年:那样多没意思。而且旁人看到还以为是神经病呢!
  师:说得好!篮球只是一个道具,一个锻炼和娱乐的道具。那么,身体需要锻炼,心灵就不需要锻炼吗?
  青年:按理应该。可心灵怎么锻炼呢?
  师:人在崇拜的时候,五体投地,表现出谦卑、服从、忏悔、求助、感恩和接受,同时也是将自己的心灵融化,与被崇拜者在心灵上合一与连接。 这就是心灵的锻炼。别人礼拜我,我也是一个道具,就像一个篮球,让人打来打去。只不过我不是真的篮球,是一个心灵篮球。同样,拜祖宗是为了培养自己的孝心,用心灵承接祖宗累积的能量;拜土地是为了感恩珍惜土地,我们生长在大地,大地给我们很多的食物和物品,而我们回馈的都是垃圾;拜龙王是珍惜感恩水,因为人体有70-80%是由水组成……中国人拜的学问深了,里面有大智慧妙作用。虔诚礼拜的时候,拜和被拜是一个整体,哪有什么你我高低呢?有些人搞不懂就大加诽谤,是没有实践过和用心体验过。妄加诽谤就是痴狂!
  青年:太高深,太智慧了!请受我三拜!
  师问:感觉到心灵 锻炼的美妙了吗?
  青年:嗯!很伟大!……
(为什么叫我老师?因为我确实能教导你,不管是思维模式,还是行为模式。)

五、【粪便臭不臭?】
  一位女士不停地述说自己的苦难,没完没了。师打断她的话说:你的苦还真多呀!
  女士:别人诉苦最多需要三天三夜,我诉苦需要三年!
  师:那是什么时候的苦?
  女士:前几年。
  师:那不是过去了吗?为什么还紧抓不放呢?(停了一下),又问:你拉出的粪便臭不臭?
  女士:当然很臭啦!
  师:现在粪便在哪里呢?
  女士:拉完就 冲掉了。
  师:为什么不把它包起来放在身上?见到人就拿出来告诉别人:我被这东西臭过?
  女士:那多恶心!
  师:对呀!苦难也是一样,它已经过去了。回忆和诉苦就如同把粪便拿出来向人展示,既臭自己又臭别人!听懂了吗?
  女士:听懂了!
  师:那以后你还要不要诉苦?
  女士:不要了!
  师:记住:越诉苦越苦,越抱怨越怨。
  女士:嗯!…
(这就是心理调节了,你苦难的事已经过去,如果依然以前的自己,那只会依旧苦难,状态决定你的成就)

六、【如果世人都出家……】
  一个对佛教有兴趣的女教师对师说:如果世人都像你一样都出家,人类还能延续吗?
  好像没有听到这个问题,师平和而关怀地问到:你的小孩多大了?男孩女孩?
  教师:17岁了,女孩。
  师:要准备高考了。
  女教师:是的。正在加紧复习。
  师:你一定希望她考个好大学吧?
  女教师:是的,要考就考北京的大学,其它的大学没什么意思。
  师:如果每一个人都像你一那样想,那还有人种田吗?其它省的大学不是只有都关门了?
  女教师:……
  师:你注意到没有,你已经回答了你自己 的问题?
  女教师( 愕然):……!


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